RESPONSIBILITY

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Danader Nisral/daniel
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Danader
RESPONSIBILIY
CONTEMPORARY ENGLISH VERSION
BUBLISHED BY DANADER NISRAL Daniel
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Dear reader!!!
It is my privilege to share with you this portion of RESPONSIBILITY I’m sure that this book is going to help you to become someone different .
This booklet talks about responsibility it will provide a guide for your journey in how to become Responsible.
READING DANIELS BOOK WILL HELP YOU TO.
o Become responsible
o To know Important people
o To prepare your future life in a great way
o And to become someone with value
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This book talks about responsibility we all know that the definition of adult is responsibility, when you become adult you take responsibility for your future life.
In your childhood your parents took care and looked after you, till now they still helping you in every situation but the time is coming when they won’t do anything for you,. They just do that to prepare your future so that one day you also become like them, protect and care, and look after your children.
When you realize 18years old you really have experiences of life, you passed through good things and bad things you’ve made good and bad friends, you know its really good to have friends around us but having friends it doesn’t mean that everyone is going to be your friend.
Must know that there is friend and friends, some of your friends are totally useless and others are totally useful in your life, but useless people are more than useful ones.

A) USLESS PEOPLE
Useless people are those people which are not able to add anything important in your life, they usually tell you about alcohol, prostitute, clubs, etc…..
Useless people are those ones with which you spend most of your time and their topic are really interesting , they often talk about clubs, ladies, games and so and forth .
Useless people are those ones who pretend as if they are going at school but reaching somewhere they dodge , they change the direction,
Don’t move one with such kind of friends they will make you in trouble, and sometime its difficult to avoid useless people . The time you give negative people that is the power they have nothing else.

FIVE WAYS TO STOP GIVING NEGATIVE PEOPLE TOO MUCH POWER IN YOUR LIFE
Negative or useless people should get the at least of out time and energy ,yet we often give them the most attention. One bad apple can spoil the whole bunch and often
Negative or useless people can cause problems for us individual level, perhaps it is that vendor who cause you to grit your teeth or maybe it is your colleague whom you avoid at all costs. It is really important to recognize when this useless or negative individuals intrude in your life in an welcome manner.
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Here are five strategies to take back your power and to avoid those negative or useless people in your life.

1 GUARD YOUT TIME
Negative or useless people can monopolize your time even when they are not with you ,if you are not careful it is easy to spend two hours dreading a one hour meeting with a negative or useless person
Don’t allow Negative or useless people to steal your time and energy , Rather than complain about people you don’t enjoy , choose to stickup conversations about pleasurable topics .
Similarly instead of spending your commute thinking about how much you dislike that person , you have to work with turn on the radio and listen to music that reduces stress.

2 CHOOSE YOUR TIME
Spending time with negative or useless people can be the first time to ruin a food mood. Their pessimistic outlooks and gloomy attitude can decrease our motivation and change the way we feel , but allowing a useless person to dictate your emotion gives them too much power in your life , make a conscious effort to choose your attitude , create a mantra, try to be responsible such as “I’m gong to stay positive to day despite the people around me” and repeat it often to help your stay on struck. Take deep breath and decide that you are going to make it a great day, dispute what others say or do. Choose to be someone with your all value.

3 REFORCUS YOUR THOUGHTS
Useless people always influence what we think about, perhaps you are so distracted by your colleagues know it all attitude that you can’t contribute productively to the meeting or rather than think how to improve your performance . you spend more time think about ladies, alcohol etc…..
Pay attention to how your thoughts change when you are faced with negative or useless people. The more time you spend dreading , fretting ,worrying and rehashing the less time you’ll have to devote to more productive things make a conscious effort to reduce the amount of mental energy you expend on useless person.

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4 CHOOSE TO BEHAVE PRODUCTIVELY
Useless people can bring out the worst in us if we are not careful, refuse to be leading by negative or useless people, refuse to spend your time with them, better remain without friend than having a hundred negative people around you.
Although it can be tempting to say “She makes me so mad “ blaming others for your conduct gives them more power, when you act in a manner that isn’t consistent with your usual behavior accept responsibility for it, commit controlling your emotional reactivity and staying true to your values. Despite your circumstances .
5 SEEK OUT POSITIVE PEOPLE
Its difficult to look on the bright side when you are surrounded by negative people, seek out positive people can brighten your spirit.
Identify the positive or useful people in your life, reactivity schedule time with them on a regular basics a quick lunch a jovial colleague or a family gathering that is guaranteed to be filled with laughter can help you stay on track .
Decide that you are not going to allow negative people or useless people to determine how you think , feel and behave tack back your power and focus your time and energy on becoming your best self.

B) IMPORTANT ,POSIVE,USEFUL PEOPLE
This is the great moment to look at the positive people in your life, what role will they play in the next stage ?what do you want from them and what do they want from you? You now know what are useless or negative people.
In first stage you had useless people but in this second stage we are going to talk about five most important people to have on board during the crucial next stage of your life and carrier.

1FAMILLY/GUARDIANS
No matter how much of pain they may at times, these are the people that will always lookout for you if you are starting something new, looking for new opportunities your family will have your best interests at heart, when you want a realistic view of the future ,its worth turning to them as they will be there no matter the situation .
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2 LOYAL FRIEND
Your friendship circles change frequently when you’re young, so don’t get surprised with the new people that may come into your life, surround yourself with a good circles of people who will encourage each other to achieve their fullest potential even if it is just one.
WHEN IS THE RIGHT TIME?
The right time is when you become responsible , before getting marriage don’t just accept someone because he is ready for the marriage , don’t take someone because he is a minister or because he has money,
Before getting marriage there is some questions you should ask for yourself :
-Is this the right person for me?
-Do I really love him or her from the bottle of my heart?
If you find an answer you can go ahead, you have to make a right decision.
LEARNING BY DOING
There is one way to learn to do something that’s “JUST DO IT” That is the way we all of us have learnt as a child to talk, to walk etc… Many arts and special skills like dancing, swimming, swimming, and martial arts are all learnt by doing to an expert or a teacher who makes us learn by doing rather than by listening to the lectures or reading books .
WHY LEARN BY DOING IS IMPORTANT
It is very simple, The reason why learning by doing is very important is because while doing we tend to fail and failures are very important in the learning process.
Normally once we fail we start analyzing what went wrong, thus at the point of failures a profound learning take place. that’s why we say “failures are stepping stones to success”, “you may to fight a battle more than once to win it” Do not say that I don’t know anything ,you can’t manage something without trying , better people laugh at you when you fail, and when they laugh you end up increasing the effort to make sure that tomorrow they won’t laugh at you, its really hard to be responsible or to reach at the level of being responsible , you can’t be responsible fifty percent (50%) if you are responsible therefore you are good in everything ,to reach that level is just making a decision and reach your decision , I have told you that the decision you make that’s what you will become , Never accept to fail at the very first time , try again and again, and when you fail never give up keep on trying you end up succeed.
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Nothing good comes easily therefore to get or to reach some great thing you must work hard and hard , Other things need a group of people so that you can make it together , and to make it you must work hand in hand, shoulder to shoulder, there is kind of work that you can’t manage yourself , example if you are a programmer and you have problem in some languages ,just you have to search someone who is good in the language you want to us , especially in techniques , in technology is better to work in group , you can create any project as a group and you succeed easily simply because you shared ideas .
PEOPLE DON’T LIKE ME.
Why people don’t like me? Is it because I’m not beautiful? Is it because I’m not handsome? Or because I’m poor, I think its because I have no parents , some people are ask themselves such questions and when they don’t get areal answer they say Yes everyone cant love me because I’m not the water to beloved by everyone , Don’t think that kind of thinking ,put this in your mind Everyone can love you and everyone can like you and if some people will hate you , they will hate you just because of good things, others will be jealous, others will want to be like you . I believe that none is perfect , you can lie, you can hurt someone but try to know how to say sorry .
UNDERCOVER (secret)OF BECOMING RESPONSIBLE
1 Don’t fear anybody
2 Respect every one
3 control your tongue
4 Be humble
5 Advice and rebuke
6 Update your brain every single day
7 Have wisdom
8 Don’t be diffident (timid)
1. FIVE SUGGESTIONS IN OVERCOMING FEAR
• Identify your fear take time to figure your fears and ask yourself why you have them.
• Confide in someone do not feel embarrassed to discuss with a family members or friends the fear you are experiencing
• Confront your fears
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• Seek a therapist
• Exercise.
2. HOW TO SHOW RESPECT
Showing other people respect is a critical part of maintaining important people relationships. Learning to respect people’s efforts, ability, opinions and quirks will help keep you happy and success in your interpersonal life.
Respecting yourself can help you move forward with the confidence to make a habit of respect and share it with the people around you.
SHOW GRATITUDE : Thanks people for their assistance and their support on a regular basis. Its important to remember all people who’ve helped you , show respect by saying Thanks. Even though there is no an obvious occasion for thanks, showing it everyday will mean a lot to people, send message, calls, emails. It doesn’t need to take more than a few minutes to express yourself. Remember to thank your:
• Parents
• Siblings
• Co workers
• Classmates
• Friends
• Teachers
• Neighbors
• Pastors
COMPLIMENT THE ACHIEVEMENTS OF OTHERS: When others are successful, draw attention to it and celebrate their ability and their achievement. Learn to recognize when other people put forth extra effort and achieve something and praise them for it with sincerity .Take them aside and do it in private.
If someone you respect seems to be having rough time or seems to have less to compliment than others, make an extra effort to compliment their effort, their attitude or other positive attributes , remember you want to become responsible as I told you don’t accept to fail , try and try to make sure that you succeed .
BE SINCERE: while its important to thank people and raise others, most people don’t usually respect brown nosing. Be genuine in your thanks and in showing your respect to others .
DO WHAT YOU SAY YOU WILL DO: If you commit to an event or make plans with someone, come through on your end of the deal, that show respect don’t say I will visit you then you remain home, try to think if you are the one who invited someone at yours and you spend your money preparing food just
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for himher and you don’t see him or her how are you going to feel? Even if you respect that person you wont respect him as before .
Other people think that when you tell someone “NO” it doesn’t show respect , therefore for them if you respect someone you must accept everything he tells you, . If someone you respect tells you something bad don’t accept just because you respect him or her , you must know how to say “NO” .
OFFER YOUR ASSISTANCE.: Go out of your way to help people when it seems they need it, Volunteer to help your friends move or stay late to help clean up after school events go above and beyond , help your little brothers and sisters with their homework , help your dad in everything at home , without being asking show the tremendous amounts of respect
RESPECT THE ABILITY OF OTHERS: Offering to much help can sometimes be disrespectful, sometime it’s also great to take some steps back and let other people prove themselves . Try to recognize when someone is capable of doing on his or her own and mind your own business to show that person the respect he or she deserves.
3. HOW TO CONTROL YOUR TONGUE
We all know the pain of regretting words we have spoken: words of pride, dishonesty, envy, gossip or anger, you can to restore bruised relationship though repentance and forgiveness. Spoken words can never be retrieved.
I’m DANIEL NAMEGABE I used to talk too much without controlling my tongue , just I have been talking purposely to make sure that everyone see me nothing else, but end up regretting the things I was doing , people took me as a baby and nothing important comes out of my month , everything was rubbish, Then one day I sat down and ask myself why girls don’t love me? I was not able to get the answer , One day I went in night club and I found a beautiful girl dancing seriously , I went to her unfortunately she was not alone , just she told me her name and where she stay . Briefly the lady was mature than I in age, thinking, I went to see her and she changes my mind.
Yes she changes my mind because she was intellectual and she was a Christian, she told me this Daniel if really you love me you have to follow my rules. And I promised her that I will do everything she tells me. On Sunday we went for prayers and I understood the words of God , the very first time I entered in church doors and I accept Jesus as my savior , After accepting Jesus I started singing in church , When the woman realized that I have reached some level spiritually she Thanks me for respecting her and following her rules , she said “ Daniel Thank you for accepting Christ , I assure you that in Christ you will get anything you want if you trust him, if you make him foreword in your life , he is able to do anything , For sure I us to go in club with a purpose , I don’t go there to dance and drink , target to see if I someone will accept Christ in herhis life. First of all sorry for deceiving you that I love you , I did that just to help you , we can’t be amorous but we can be friends in Christ” . I replied “ My sister let
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me thank you for all you did for me , Now I’m someone I couldn’t find even a single second to talk with my father because of my behavior , I didn’t suggest you love because I loved you , no I loved just the way you have been dancing and my real purpose was just to sleep with you ,nothing else , But since you brought me in church I have change everything now I can’t sleep with anyone before getting marriage . Therefore I accept what you say let’s be brothers and sisters in Christ.


RELY ON GODS STRENGTH TO AID YOU :With human effort alone none can tame his tongue, it is an unruly evil, full of deadly poison (James 3:8). Only by the grace of God in your life can seek to control your speech.
ASSUME RESPONSIBILITY FOR EVERY WORD YOU SPEEK: God desires that you speak the truth (Ephesians $:25)he will old your responsible for what you speak, every idle word than men shall speak ,they shall give account thereof in the day of judgment (Mathew 12:36)
LISTEN MORE THAN YOU SPEAK
Spending more time listening also helps us avoid misunderstandings; it is easy to jump to the wrong conclusion, especially when we haven’t had a chance to hear all the facts.
While you might often regret speaking too soon you will never regret talking the time to really listen.
EXAMINE YOUR MOTIVES
One of the best ways to keep your tongue in check is examine your own motives behind the words that you feel like saying before you say them.
SAY NONTHING
We all know the old proverbs which says “ if you can’t say something nice, don’t say it at all”. While insincere flattery can get us in almost as much trouble as sharp words or criticism , silence truly is golden. No one can fault you to words you didn’t say!!!
Do whatever it takes to keep from blurting out things you might later regret, whether it be literally biting your tongue ,or simply counting to 10,20 or 50 before speaking.
WATCH YOUR WORDS
Let the words you speak be sweet like honey, ask yourself before you begin to speak, are the words iam about to speak the ones I really want to be remembered for? Are the encouraging and constructive? Are they truthful? Are they kind? Are they building someone up? Are they going to build someone’s brain? , are they going to change someone’s behavior? Rather than tearing them down? Are they factual? Are
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they wise? Have I listened well? ask yourself such question before you speak , try to talk something that can help people , that can solve peoples problem ,choose to be a problem solver, if the answer to any of these questions is no, consider rephrasing them or not speak at all.
4. HOW TO BE HUMBLE
Its hard to be humble, when you are perfect in everyway . Of course few people think actually they are perfect in every way but it can still be pretty hard to be humble. Especially if you live in a society that encourage competition and individuality.
Yes even in such a culture. Humility remains an important virtual. Learning to be humble is of paramount importance in most spiritual traditions, and humility can help you develop more fully and joy richer relationship with others . as well as create opportunities and earn you respect.
61558; ADMIT THAT YOU ARE NOT THE BEST AT EVERYTHING OR ANYTHING: No matter how talented you are, There is almost always somebody who can do something better than you. Look at those who are better and consider the potential for improvement. No body is the best at something.
Even if you are the best in the word at doing something . There are always other things that you cannot do, and may never be able to do.
Recognizing your limitations does not mean abandoning your dreams, and it does not mean giving up on learning new things or improving your existing abilities. None of us are perfect and none of us can do everything by ourselves.

61558; RECOGNIZE YOUR OWN FAULTS: We judge others because it is a lot easier than looking at ourselves. Unfortunately its also completely unproductive and in many cases, harmful. Judging others causes strife in relationship, and it prevents new relationships from forming. Perhaps even worse, it prevents us from trying to improve ourselves. Everybody makes mistakes .
We make judgment about others all the time, usually without even realizing it, as a practical exercise , try to catch yourself in the act of judging others, and whenever you do, judge yourself instead . consider how you can improve yourself, instead of how you think others should act, after all , you cannot control other peoples decisions and behaviors, but you can control yours.
61558; BE GRATEFUL FOR WHAT YOU HAVE: Every day remember that with a bad choice yesterday your whole life could be different today and further more that to day could be the day your good choice change your life. Though you have undoubtedly worked hard for what you have, you could not have done
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61558; it all without other peoples support. everything we do is a result of what many other people have done to us it is all because of the people around us that we get shaped and become better persons at some point so that we could achieve our goals.

61558; DON’T BE AFRAID TO MAKE MISTAKES: Part of being humble understands that you will make mistakes. Understand that everyone makes mistakes and you will have heavy burden lifted off of you. However this doesn’t mean that you should be sloppy try to avoid obvious mistakes, but don’t be afraid to try new methods or ways of accomplishing your goals.
Each person can only experience a tiny sliver of life at a time. There will always be people who are older and wiser than you, your elders opinions could be worth listening to, although you must make the decision based on your knowledge of them.
61558; ADMIT YOUR MISTAKES: Although you may fear that people will be angry and frustrated with you, it is always better to admit than to cover it up, whether you have made a mistake as a boss, parent or friend people will appreciate the fact that you are willing to admit that you are not perfect and that you are working to improve yourself and the situation. Admitting your mistakes shows that you are not stubborn, selfish or unwilling to not look perfect. Admitting your mistakes will make people respect you more, whether they are your own children or your coworkers.
61558; BE CONSIDERATE IN CONVERSATIONS: Humble people don’t have to be meek wallflowers, being humble doesn’t mean not having any self esteem. However a humble person should be mindful of everyone in the conversation and shouldn’t talk down or disrupt anyone . as a humble person you should recognize that everyone including you has their own goals and dreams and they may want to talk about their achievements and their opinions on things .
5. FIVE WAYS TO REBUKE AND CORRECT
61692; BE PURPODEFUL
A rebuke should not be vindictive in nature or driven by jealously or selfish interest , the betterment of your friend should be your sole objective. If this is not the case. You may only be acting from your emotion and things will not go well , you will likely not be received well by your friend. Check your motive first. This is where prayer beforehand comes in handy.
61692; BE LOVING
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As we should do with everything , correction of any kind should come in the context of loving relationship , in fact one standard might be to not rebuke people you don’t know THIS POST was written for different purposes , but many offer some suggestions. Understand this the part of maturing as a person is learning how to say hard things and still be kind doing so.
61692; BE TRUTHFUL
Don’t dance around or use subtleties when addressing the issue. State the problem as you see it. Keep in mind you may be strong on some of your assumptions, so be prepared to listen as much as talk, but don’t leave them guessing what you mean either.
61692; BE HELPFUL
In addition to pointing out the problems you see. A loving response comes with some offers for resolution and a willingness to walk through any necessary recovery with the friend. Help them process where they are in life. Recommit your friendship to them. Afterwards to make sure they know you care.
61692; BE REDEMPTIVE
Be willing to extend grace and forget the friend for any wrong they have done towards you, others or themselves. Make sure he or she knows you are still in their corner. Don’t offer a rebuke or correct someone if you are not also willing to forgive or if you don’t ultimately want the best for them regardless of how they respond.

6. SIX WAYS TO UPDATE YOUR BRAIN.
o READ
Reading is the primary way to educate ourselves. If you are not reading, you are doing yourself a huge dis service with only a few exceptions id go as far as to say that if you are not reading your brain is dying , Reading is the fundamental bedrock of updating your brain and becoming smarter . you have to read regularly .
Not all reading methods and not all reading contents are equal.
There is a very big difference between reading on a computer and reading a physical book ,better downloading your book and print it , it is better reading physical book than reading using a computer.
Reading on the internet is also different from reading a book. A book represents a clear start and end point. There also more barriers to publishing a physical book than getting something up on the web.. I
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don’t day that reading on the internet is bad, the web in an incredible tool and gives us access to information that would have been impossible in the past, However we need to be careful to not let it crowd out our traditional reading .
So what should you read? Here are some suggested categories :
a) Classic books
b) Book related to the expertise you will need to be competitive in 5 or 10 years
c) Book related to your area of your current expertise
d) Bible
e) History books
f) Books on topic from a completely different field.

o SEEK OUT NEW EXPERIENCE S
Our brains grow when we do something new with them. If you are not doing anything new your brain is not growing , read new books, studying new topics , go back to get another degree are all things that can help give your brain new experience .
o THINK
We think all the time, but most of us don’t spend any structured, international time just thinking, we think just enough to start our next action. There is a great value in taking the time to deliberately sit and think. One of the reasons we don’t do this is because it usually becomes day dreaming, day dreaming isn’t necessarily a bad thing, but it isn’t as directed as what we are trying to achieve by sitting and thinking.
Decide what you are going to think about.
To be really productive your thinking needs to be directed . Here are something’s you might want to spend some time thinking about.
i. Your career plans and how to get the most out of your current job
ii. A business idea
iii. Personal goals clarifying what you want to achieve in life and how to reach those achievements
Find a quiet place without a lot of distractions
What qualifies as a distraction is going to be different for different people and may vary depending on what you are thinking about , when you are sitting alone you can think about anything you want quietly and you can make a decision about what you thought .
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Write down what you want to accomplish
Without a plan you won’t know if you accomplished what you set out to do Get it down on paper to make sure you are clear what you want to get out of this. Write down the plan you have in your mine , find a small notebook and write everything in it.
o PRACTICE
Musicians and sports figures constantly practice, but most other people never practice . if you can find a way to practice your skills, you can become better at what you do, practice can make you faster, more efficient and better at your job, the trick is to find a small unit that you can repeat in the way that will your skills.
o WRITE
o DON’T SAY THAT YOU CANT MANAGE
7. WISDOM PEOPLE how to become one.

So what are the secrets of those people who are wise beyond their years? I’m sharing a few traits that wise people tend to have in common, as well as several pathways for getting there ... soon.
61656; WISE PEOPLE HAVE A LOT OF EXPERIENCES
The reason it’s often said that wisdom comes with age is, in fact, because older people tend to have had more life experiences than their younger counterparts. And experience, is one of the true cornerstones of wisdom.

61656; WISE PEOPLE SEE WHAT’S RIGHT IN FRONT OF THEM
Someone wrote wisdom as, basically, understanding the obvious. “Wise people know something “But the interesting thing is not that they know more, about, say, the origin of the universe ... wise people actually know the deeper meaning of things that are generally known, actually.”
We all know we’re going to die, for example. Wise people have a better understanding of the meaning of that, and live differently placing an emphasis on relationships, spirituality and personal growth rather than on more superficial markers of success.
61656; THEY MEDITATE
In order to achieve that kind of direct, I-see-who-I-am, who-you-are, and-the-circumstances-right-in-front-of-us kind of knowledge, reflection is paramount, which is why meditation a kind
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of self-examination has long been believed to be a pathway to wisdom. “It’s kind of a time out of everyday life by just observing the breath, or observing sensations, “Naturally, things come up and the trick is just to accept it, whatever it is, and not to react with negativity.
61656; THEY HAVE A STRONG SUPPORT NETWORK
One of the conditions that tend to separate people who are able to grow and learn from a difficult situation from those who are not is the presence of a strong support system; It may be a formal support group, therapy, friends or family. “People who feel that they are alone if there is nothing, it can be very difficult to learn anything from the trauma because it’s just so devastating,
8. DON’T BE DIFFINDENT
How to Overcome Shyness
We’ve both experienced different variations of shyness, and through practice and increased awareness we have both overcome this. The following are tips that have helped us overcome this uncomfortable feeling.
61558; Understand Your Shyness
Seek to understand your unique brand of shyness and how that manifests in your life. Understand what situation triggers this feeling? And what are you concerned with at that point?
61558; Turning Self Consciousness into Self Awareness
Recognize that the world is not looking at you. Besides, most people are too busy looking at themselves. Instead of watching yourself as if you are other people, bring your awareness inwards. Armed with your understanding of what makes you shy, seek within yourself and become the observing presence of your thoughts. Self awareness is the first step towards any change or life improvement.
61558; Find Your Strengths
We all have unique qualities and different ways of expressing ourselves. It’s important to know and fully accept the things we do well, even if they differ from the norm. If everyone was the same, the world would be a pretty boring place.
• Find something you are good at and focus on doing it. An identifiable strength will boost your natural self esteem and your ego, helping you better identify with yourself. It is a short term fix, but will give you the confidence you need to break your self-imposed barrier of fear.
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See how your unique strength gives you an advantage. For example, I Daniel Ader (Danader Nisral) I’m a naturally quiet person who prefers to spend time alone. I learnt that I listen better than others and notices things that others miss in conversations. I also discovered that I alone time has given me a better understanding of herself.
61558; Learn to Like Yourself
Practice appreciating yourself and liking the unique expression that is you. Write a love letter to yourself, do things you enjoy, give gratitude for your body and its effortless functions, spend quality time getting to know yourself.
Try to go on self date.
61558; Focus on Other People
Rather than focusing on your awkwardness in social situations, focus on other people about what they have to say. Become interested in learning about others, and probe them to talk about themselves. You can try pondering the question while interacting: What is it about this person that I like?
61558; accept rejection
Accept the possibility that we can be rejected and learn to not take it personally .Remember you are not alone and we all experience rejections. it is part of life and part of the learning process . The key lies in how you handle rejections when they come. It helps to be mentally prepared before they happen.
• Never take it personally. It was not your fault. It just wasn’t meant to be. The scenario was not the best fit for you.
• Find the lesson what did you learn? There is a lesson ingrained in every situation. And through these life lessons lies the potential for you to become a better person, a stronger person. Nothing is lost if you can find the lesson. See these as the blessings in disguise.
Move on. Recognize that when you fall into self-pity, you are not moving forward. Nothing will be changed from your self-pity. When you start to recognize this, it becomes clear that only energy is wasted while we feed to our problem-seeking ego. Pick yourself.
61558; Focus on the Moment
Becoming mindful of what you’re doing, regardless of what you’re doing, will take focus away from the self. When you are having a conversation, forget about how you look, focus on the
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words, fall into the words, become absorbed in the words. The tones. The expression. Appreciate it and give gratitude for it, don’t eat words, speak louder, look at the audience when you are talking .
61558; Seek and Record Your Successes
As you overcome this condition we’ve been labeling as shyness, you will have many wins and realizations about yourself. You will gain insights into the truth behind social scenarios. You will start to view yourself differently and come to recognize that you can become comfortable and confident. When these wins and realizations happen, make sure to keep a notebook and write them down. Keeping a journal of your successes will not only boost self confidence, but also shift your focus towards something that can benefit you.


RESPONSIBILIY
CONTEMPORARY ENGLISH VERSION
BUBLISHED BY DANADER NISRAL Daniel
Permission to use any part of his edition should be requested from the publisher.
Dear reader!!!
It is my privilege to share with you this portion of RESPONSIBILITY I’m sure that this book is going to help you to become someone different .
This booklet talks about responsibility it will provide a guide for your journey in how to become Responsible.
READING DANIELS BOOK WILL HELP YOU TO.
o Become responsible
o To know Important people
o To prepare your future life in a great way
o And to become someone with value
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This book talks about responsibility we all know that the definition of adult is responsibility, when you become adult you take responsibility for your future life.
In your childhood your parents took care and looked after you, till now they still helping you in every situation but the time is coming when they won’t do anything for you,. They just do that to prepare your future so that one day you also become like them, protect and care, and look after your children.
When you realize 18years old you really have experiences of life, you passed through good things and bad things you’ve made good and bad friends, you know its really good to have friends around us but having friends it doesn’t mean that everyone is going to be your friend.
Must know that there is friend and friends, some of your friends are totally useless and others are totally useful in your life, but useless people are more than useful ones.

A) USLESS PEOPLE
Useless people are those people which are not able to add anything important in your life, they usually tell you about alcohol, prostitute, clubs, etc…..
Useless people are those ones with which you spend most of your time and their topic are really interesting , they often talk about clubs, ladies, games and so and forth .
Useless people are those ones who pretend as if they are going at school but reaching somewhere they dodge , they change the direction,
Don’t move one with such kind of friends they will make you in trouble, and sometime its difficult to avoid useless people . The time you give negative people that is the power they have nothing else.

FIVE WAYS TO STOP GIVING NEGATIVE PEOPLE TOO MUCH POWER IN YOUR LIFE
Negative or useless people should get the at least of out time and energy ,yet we often give them the most attention. One bad apple can spoil the whole bunch and often
Negative or useless people can cause problems for us individual level, perhaps it is that vendor who cause you to grit your teeth or maybe it is your colleague whom you avoid at all costs. It is really important to recognize when this useless or negative individuals intrude in your life in an welcome manner.
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Here are five strategies to take back your power and to avoid those negative or useless people in your life.

1 GUARD YOUT TIME
Negative or useless people can monopolize your time even when they are not with you ,if you are not careful it is easy to spend two hours dreading a one hour meeting with a negative or useless person
Don’t allow Negative or useless people to steal your time and energy , Rather than complain about people you don’t enjoy , choose to stickup conversations about pleasurable topics .
Similarly instead of spending your commute thinking about how much you dislike that person , you have to work with turn on the radio and listen to music that reduces stress.

2 CHOOSE YOUR TIME
Spending time with negative or useless people can be the first time to ruin a food mood. Their pessimistic outlooks and gloomy attitude can decrease our motivation and change the way we feel , but allowing a useless person to dictate your emotion gives them too much power in your life , make a conscious effort to choose your attitude , create a mantra, try to be responsible such as “I’m gong to stay positive to day despite the people around me” and repeat it often to help your stay on struck. Take deep breath and decide that you are going to make it a great day, dispute what others say or do. Choose to be someone with your all value.

3 REFORCUS YOUR THOUGHTS
Useless people always influence what we think about, perhaps you are so distracted by your colleagues know it all attitude that you can’t contribute productively to the meeting or rather than think how to improve your performance . you spend more time think about ladies, alcohol etc…..
Pay attention to how your thoughts change when you are faced with negative or useless people. The more time you spend dreading , fretting ,worrying and rehashing the less time you’ll have to devote to more productive things make a conscious effort to reduce the amount of mental energy you expend on useless person.

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4 CHOOSE TO BEHAVE PRODUCTIVELY
Useless people can bring out the worst in us if we are not careful, refuse to be leading by negative or useless people, refuse to spend your time with them, better remain without friend than having a hundred negative people around you.
Although it can be tempting to say “She makes me so mad “ blaming others for your conduct gives them more power, when you act in a manner that isn’t consistent with your usual behavior accept responsibility for it, commit controlling your emotional reactivity and staying true to your values. Despite your circumstances .
5 SEEK OUT POSITIVE PEOPLE
Its difficult to look on the bright side when you are surrounded by negative people, seek out positive people can brighten your spirit.
Identify the positive or useful people in your life, reactivity schedule time with them on a regular basics a quick lunch a jovial colleague or a family gathering that is guaranteed to be filled with laughter can help you stay on track .
Decide that you are not going to allow negative people or useless people to determine how you think , feel and behave tack back your power and focus your time and energy on becoming your best self.

B) IMPORTANT ,POSIVE,USEFUL PEOPLE
This is the great moment to look at the positive people in your life, what role will they play in the next stage ?what do you want from them and what do they want from you? You now know what are useless or negative people.
In first stage you had useless people but in this second stage we are going to talk about five most important people to have on board during the crucial next stage of your life and carrier.

1FAMILLY/GUARDIANS
No matter how much of pain they may at times, these are the people that will always lookout for you if you are starting something new, looking for new opportunities your family will have your best interests at heart, when you want a realistic view of the future ,its worth turning to them as they will be there no matter the situation .
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2 LOYAL FRIEND
Your friendship circles change frequently when you’re young, so don’t get surprised with the new people that may come into your life, surround yourself with a good circles of people who will encourage each other to achieve their fullest potential even if it is just one.
WHEN IS THE RIGHT TIME?
The right time is when you become responsible , before getting marriage don’t just accept someone because he is ready for the marriage , don’t take someone because he is a minister or because he has money,
Before getting marriage there is some questions you should ask for yourself :
-Is this the right person for me?
-Do I really love him or her from the bottle of my heart?
If you find an answer you can go ahead, you have to make a right decision.
LEARNING BY DOING
There is one way to learn to do something that’s “JUST DO IT” That is the way we all of us have learnt as a child to talk, to walk etc… Many arts and special skills like dancing, swimming, swimming, and martial arts are all learnt by doing to an expert or a teacher who makes us learn by doing rather than by listening to the lectures or reading books .
WHY LEARN BY DOING IS IMPORTANT
It is very simple, The reason why learning by doing is very important is because while doing we tend to fail and failures are very important in the learning process.
Normally once we fail we start analyzing what went wrong, thus at the point of failures a profound learning take place. that’s why we say “failures are stepping stones to success”, “you may to fight a battle more than once to win it” Do not say that I don’t know anything ,you can’t manage something without trying , better people laugh at you when you fail, and when they laugh you end up increasing the effort to make sure that tomorrow they won’t laugh at you, its really hard to be responsible or to reach at the level of being responsible , you can’t be responsible fifty percent (50%) if you are responsible therefore you are good in everything ,to reach that level is just making a decision and reach your decision , I have told you that the decision you make that’s what you will become , Never accept to fail at the very first time , try again and again, and when you fail never give up keep on trying you end up succeed.
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Nothing good comes easily therefore to get or to reach some great thing you must work hard and hard , Other things need a group of people so that you can make it together , and to make it you must work hand in hand, shoulder to shoulder, there is kind of work that you can’t manage yourself , example if you are a programmer and you have problem in some languages ,just you have to search someone who is good in the language you want to us , especially in techniques , in technology is better to work in group , you can create any project as a group and you succeed easily simply because you shared ideas .
PEOPLE DON’T LIKE ME.
Why people don’t like me? Is it because I’m not beautiful? Is it because I’m not handsome? Or because I’m poor, I think its because I have no parents , some people are ask themselves such questions and when they don’t get areal answer they say Yes everyone cant love me because I’m not the water to beloved by everyone , Don’t think that kind of thinking ,put this in your mind Everyone can love you and everyone can like you and if some people will hate you , they will hate you just because of good things, others will be jealous, others will want to be like you . I believe that none is perfect , you can lie, you can hurt someone but try to know how to say sorry .
UNDERCOVER (secret)OF BECOMING RESPONSIBLE
1 Don’t fear anybody
2 Respect every one
3 control your tongue
4 Be humble
5 Advice and rebuke
6 Update your brain every single day
7 Have wisdom
8 Don’t be diffident (timid)
1. FIVE SUGGESTIONS IN OVERCOMING FEAR
• Identify your fear take time to figure your fears and ask yourself why you have them.
• Confide in someone do not feel embarrassed to discuss with a family members or friends the fear you are experiencing
• Confront your fears
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• Seek a therapist
• Exercise.
2. HOW TO SHOW RESPECT
Showing other people respect is a critical part of maintaining important people relationships. Learning to respect people’s efforts, ability, opinions and quirks will help keep you happy and success in your interpersonal life.
Respecting yourself can help you move forward with the confidence to make a habit of respect and share it with the people around you.
SHOW GRATITUDE : Thanks people for their assistance and their support on a regular basis. Its important to remember all people who’ve helped you , show respect by saying Thanks. Even though there is no an obvious occasion for thanks, showing it everyday will mean a lot to people, send message, calls, emails. It doesn’t need to take more than a few minutes to express yourself. Remember to thank your:
• Parents
• Siblings
• Co workers
• Classmates
• Friends
• Teachers
• Neighbors
• Pastors
COMPLIMENT THE ACHIEVEMENTS OF OTHERS: When others are successful, draw attention to it and celebrate their ability and their achievement. Learn to recognize when other people put forth extra effort and achieve something and praise them for it with sincerity .Take them aside and do it in private.
If someone you respect seems to be having rough time or seems to have less to compliment than others, make an extra effort to compliment their effort, their attitude or other positive attributes , remember you want to become responsible as I told you don’t accept to fail , try and try to make sure that you succeed .
BE SINCERE: while its important to thank people and raise others, most people don’t usually respect brown nosing. Be genuine in your thanks and in showing your respect to others .
DO WHAT YOU SAY YOU WILL DO: If you commit to an event or make plans with someone, come through on your end of the deal, that show respect don’t say I will visit you then you remain home, try to think if you are the one who invited someone at yours and you spend your money preparing food just
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for himher and you don’t see him or her how are you going to feel? Even if you respect that person you wont respect him as before .
Other people think that when you tell someone “NO” it doesn’t show respect , therefore for them if you respect someone you must accept everything he tells you, . If someone you respect tells you something bad don’t accept just because you respect him or her , you must know how to say “NO” .
OFFER YOUR ASSISTANCE.: Go out of your way to help people when it seems they need it, Volunteer to help your friends move or stay late to help clean up after school events go above and beyond , help your little brothers and sisters with their homework , help your dad in everything at home , without being asking show the tremendous amounts of respect
RESPECT THE ABILITY OF OTHERS: Offering to much help can sometimes be disrespectful, sometime it’s also great to take some steps back and let other people prove themselves . Try to recognize when someone is capable of doing on his or her own and mind your own business to show that person the respect he or she deserves.
3. HOW TO CONTROL YOUR TONGUE
We all know the pain of regretting words we have spoken: words of pride, dishonesty, envy, gossip or anger, you can to restore bruised relationship though repentance and forgiveness. Spoken words can never be retrieved.
I’m DANIEL NAMEGABE I used to talk too much without controlling my tongue , just I have been talking purposely to make sure that everyone see me nothing else, but end up regretting the things I was doing , people took me as a baby and nothing important comes out of my month , everything was rubbish, Then one day I sat down and ask myself why girls don’t love me? I was not able to get the answer , One day I went in night club and I found a beautiful girl dancing seriously , I went to her unfortunately she was not alone , just she told me her name and where she stay . Briefly the lady was mature than I in age, thinking, I went to see her and she changes my mind.
Yes she changes my mind because she was intellectual and she was a Christian, she told me this Daniel if really you love me you have to follow my rules. And I promised her that I will do everything she tells me. On Sunday we went for prayers and I understood the words of God , the very first time I entered in church doors and I accept Jesus as my savior , After accepting Jesus I started singing in church , When the woman realized that I have reached some level spiritually she Thanks me for respecting her and following her rules , she said “ Daniel Thank you for accepting Christ , I assure you that in Christ you will get anything you want if you trust him, if you make him foreword in your life , he is able to do anything , For sure I us to go in club with a purpose , I don’t go there to dance and drink , target to see if I someone will accept Christ in herhis life. First of all sorry for deceiving you that I love you , I did that just to help you , we can’t be amorous but we can be friends in Christ” . I replied “ My sister let
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me thank you for all you did for me , Now I’m someone I couldn’t find even a single second to talk with my father because of my behavior , I didn’t suggest you love because I loved you , no I loved just the way you have been dancing and my real purpose was just to sleep with you ,nothing else , But since you brought me in church I have change everything now I can’t sleep with anyone before getting marriage . Therefore I accept what you say let’s be brothers and sisters in Christ.


RELY ON GODS STRENGTH TO AID YOU :With human effort alone none can tame his tongue, it is an unruly evil, full of deadly poison (James 3:8). Only by the grace of God in your life can seek to control your speech.
ASSUME RESPONSIBILITY FOR EVERY WORD YOU SPEEK: God desires that you speak the truth (Ephesians $:25)he will old your responsible for what you speak, every idle word than men shall speak ,they shall give account thereof in the day of judgment (Mathew 12:36)
LISTEN MORE THAN YOU SPEAK
Spending more time listening also helps us avoid misunderstandings; it is easy to jump to the wrong conclusion, especially when we haven’t had a chance to hear all the facts.
While you might often regret speaking too soon you will never regret talking the time to really listen.
EXAMINE YOUR MOTIVES
One of the best ways to keep your tongue in check is examine your own motives behind the words that you feel like saying before you say them.
SAY NONTHING
We all know the old proverbs which says “ if you can’t say something nice, don’t say it at all”. While insincere flattery can get us in almost as much trouble as sharp words or criticism , silence truly is golden. No one can fault you to words you didn’t say!!!
Do whatever it takes to keep from blurting out things you might later regret, whether it be literally biting your tongue ,or simply counting to 10,20 or 50 before speaking.
WATCH YOUR WORDS
Let the words you speak be sweet like honey, ask yourself before you begin to speak, are the words iam about to speak the ones I really want to be remembered for? Are the encouraging and constructive? Are they truthful? Are they kind? Are they building someone up? Are they going to build someone’s brain? , are they going to change someone’s behavior? Rather than tearing them down? Are they factual? Are
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they wise? Have I listened well? ask yourself such question before you speak , try to talk something that can help people , that can solve peoples problem ,choose to be a problem solver, if the answer to any of these questions is no, consider rephrasing them or not speak at all.
4. HOW TO BE HUMBLE
Its hard to be humble, when you are perfect in everyway . Of course few people think actually they are perfect in every way but it can still be pretty hard to be humble. Especially if you live in a society that encourage competition and individuality.
Yes even in such a culture. Humility remains an important virtual. Learning to be humble is of paramount importance in most spiritual traditions, and humility can help you develop more fully and joy richer relationship with others . as well as create opportunities and earn you respect.
61558; ADMIT THAT YOU ARE NOT THE BEST AT EVERYTHING OR ANYTHING: No matter how talented you are, There is almost always somebody who can do something better than you. Look at those who are better and consider the potential for improvement. No body is the best at something.
Even if you are the best in the word at doing something . There are always other things that you cannot do, and may never be able to do.
Recognizing your limitations does not mean abandoning your dreams, and it does not mean giving up on learning new things or improving your existing abilities. None of us are perfect and none of us can do everything by ourselves.

61558; RECOGNIZE YOUR OWN FAULTS: We judge others because it is a lot easier than looking at ourselves. Unfortunately its also completely unproductive and in many cases, harmful. Judging others causes strife in relationship, and it prevents new relationships from forming. Perhaps even worse, it prevents us from trying to improve ourselves. Everybody makes mistakes .
We make judgment about others all the time, usually without even realizing it, as a practical exercise , try to catch yourself in the act of judging others, and whenever you do, judge yourself instead . consider how you can improve yourself, instead of how you think others should act, after all , you cannot control other peoples decisions and behaviors, but you can control yours.
61558; BE GRATEFUL FOR WHAT YOU HAVE: Every day remember that with a bad choice yesterday your whole life could be different today and further more that to day could be the day your good choice change your life. Though you have undoubtedly worked hard for what you have, you could not have done
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61558; it all without other peoples support. everything we do is a result of what many other people have done to us it is all because of the people around us that we get shaped and become better persons at some point so that we could achieve our goals.

61558; DON’T BE AFRAID TO MAKE MISTAKES: Part of being humble understands that you will make mistakes. Understand that everyone makes mistakes and you will have heavy burden lifted off of you. However this doesn’t mean that you should be sloppy try to avoid obvious mistakes, but don’t be afraid to try new methods or ways of accomplishing your goals.
Each person can only experience a tiny sliver of life at a time. There will always be people who are older and wiser than you, your elders opinions could be worth listening to, although you must make the decision based on your knowledge of them.
61558; ADMIT YOUR MISTAKES: Although you may fear that people will be angry and frustrated with you, it is always better to admit than to cover it up, whether you have made a mistake as a boss, parent or friend people will appreciate the fact that you are willing to admit that you are not perfect and that you are working to improve yourself and the situation. Admitting your mistakes shows that you are not stubborn, selfish or unwilling to not look perfect. Admitting your mistakes will make people respect you more, whether they are your own children or your coworkers.
61558; BE CONSIDERATE IN CONVERSATIONS: Humble people don’t have to be meek wallflowers, being humble doesn’t mean not having any self esteem. However a humble person should be mindful of everyone in the conversation and shouldn’t talk down or disrupt anyone . as a humble person you should recognize that everyone including you has their own goals and dreams and they may want to talk about their achievements and their opinions on things .
5. FIVE WAYS TO REBUKE AND CORRECT
61692; BE PURPODEFUL
A rebuke should not be vindictive in nature or driven by jealously or selfish interest , the betterment of your friend should be your sole objective. If this is not the case. You may only be acting from your emotion and things will not go well , you will likely not be received well by your friend. Check your motive first. This is where prayer beforehand comes in handy.
61692; BE LOVING
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As we should do with everything , correction of any kind should come in the context of loving relationship , in fact one standard might be to not rebuke people you don’t know THIS POST was written for different purposes , but many offer some suggestions. Understand this the part of maturing as a person is learning how to say hard things and still be kind doing so.
61692; BE TRUTHFUL
Don’t dance around or use subtleties when addressing the issue. State the problem as you see it. Keep in mind you may be strong on some of your assumptions, so be prepared to listen as much as talk, but don’t leave them guessing what you mean either.
61692; BE HELPFUL
In addition to pointing out the problems you see. A loving response comes with some offers for resolution and a willingness to walk through any necessary recovery with the friend. Help them process where they are in life. Recommit your friendship to them. Afterwards to make sure they know you care.
61692; BE REDEMPTIVE
Be willing to extend grace and forget the friend for any wrong they have done towards you, others or themselves. Make sure he or she knows you are still in their corner. Don’t offer a rebuke or correct someone if you are not also willing to forgive or if you don’t ultimately want the best for them regardless of how they respond.

6. SIX WAYS TO UPDATE YOUR BRAIN.
o READ
Reading is the primary way to educate ourselves. If you are not reading, you are doing yourself a huge dis service with only a few exceptions id go as far as to say that if you are not reading your brain is dying , Reading is the fundamental bedrock of updating your brain and becoming smarter . you have to read regularly .
Not all reading methods and not all reading contents are equal.
There is a very big difference between reading on a computer and reading a physical book ,better downloading your book and print it , it is better reading physical book than reading using a computer.
Reading on the internet is also different from reading a book. A book represents a clear start and end point. There also more barriers to publishing a physical book than getting something up on the web.. I
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don’t day that reading on the internet is bad, the web in an incredible tool and gives us access to information that would have been impossible in the past, However we need to be careful to not let it crowd out our traditional reading .
So what should you read? Here are some suggested categories :
a) Classic books
b) Book related to the expertise you will need to be competitive in 5 or 10 years
c) Book related to your area of your current expertise
d) Bible
e) History books
f) Books on topic from a completely different field.

o SEEK OUT NEW EXPERIENCE S
Our brains grow when we do something new with them. If you are not doing anything new your brain is not growing , read new books, studying new topics , go back to get another degree are all things that can help give your brain new experience .
o THINK
We think all the time, but most of us don’t spend any structured, international time just thinking, we think just enough to start our next action. There is a great value in taking the time to deliberately sit and think. One of the reasons we don’t do this is because it usually becomes day dreaming, day dreaming isn’t necessarily a bad thing, but it isn’t as directed as what we are trying to achieve by sitting and thinking.
Decide what you are going to think about.
To be really productive your thinking needs to be directed . Here are something’s you might want to spend some time thinking about.
i. Your career plans and how to get the most out of your current job
ii. A business idea
iii. Personal goals clarifying what you want to achieve in life and how to reach those achievements
Find a quiet place without a lot of distractions
What qualifies as a distraction is going to be different for different people and may vary depending on what you are thinking about , when you are sitting alone you can think about anything you want quietly and you can make a decision about what you thought .
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Write down what you want to accomplish
Without a plan you won’t know if you accomplished what you set out to do Get it down on paper to make sure you are clear what you want to get out of this. Write down the plan you have in your mine , find a small notebook and write everything in it.
o PRACTICE
Musicians and sports figures constantly practice, but most other people never practice . if you can find a way to practice your skills, you can become better at what you do, practice can make you faster, more efficient and better at your job, the trick is to find a small unit that you can repeat in the way that will your skills.
o WRITE
o DON’T SAY THAT YOU CANT MANAGE
7. WISDOM PEOPLE how to become one.

So what are the secrets of those people who are wise beyond their years? I’m sharing a few traits that wise people tend to have in common, as well as several pathways for getting there ... soon.
61656; WISE PEOPLE HAVE A LOT OF EXPERIENCES
The reason it’s often said that wisdom comes with age is, in fact, because older people tend to have had more life experiences than their younger counterparts. And experience, is one of the true cornerstones of wisdom.

61656; WISE PEOPLE SEE WHAT’S RIGHT IN FRONT OF THEM
Someone wrote wisdom as, basically, understanding the obvious. “Wise people know something “But the interesting thing is not that they know more, about, say, the origin of the universe ... wise people actually know the deeper meaning of things that are generally known, actually.”
We all know we’re going to die, for example. Wise people have a better understanding of the meaning of that, and live differently placing an emphasis on relationships, spirituality and personal growth rather than on more superficial markers of success.
61656; THEY MEDITATE
In order to achieve that kind of direct, I-see-who-I-am, who-you-are, and-the-circumstances-right-in-front-of-us kind of knowledge, reflection is paramount, which is why meditation a kind
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of self-examination has long been believed to be a pathway to wisdom. “It’s kind of a time out of everyday life by just observing the breath, or observing sensations, “Naturally, things come up and the trick is just to accept it, whatever it is, and not to react with negativity.
61656; THEY HAVE A STRONG SUPPORT NETWORK
One of the conditions that tend to separate people who are able to grow and learn from a difficult situation from those who are not is the presence of a strong support system; It may be a formal support group, therapy, friends or family. “People who feel that they are alone if there is nothing, it can be very difficult to learn anything from the trauma because it’s just so devastating,
8. DON’T BE DIFFINDENT
How to Overcome Shyness
We’ve both experienced different variations of shyness, and through practice and increased awareness we have both overcome this. The following are tips that have helped us overcome this uncomfortable feeling.
61558; Understand Your Shyness
Seek to understand your unique brand of shyness and how that manifests in your life. Understand what situation triggers this feeling? And what are you concerned with at that point?
61558; Turning Self Consciousness into Self Awareness
Recognize that the world is not looking at you. Besides, most people are too busy looking at themselves. Instead of watching yourself as if you are other people, bring your awareness inwards. Armed with your understanding of what makes you shy, seek within yourself and become the observing presence of your thoughts. Self awareness is the first step towards any change or life improvement.
61558; Find Your Strengths
We all have unique qualities and different ways of expressing ourselves. It’s important to know and fully accept the things we do well, even if they differ from the norm. If everyone was the same, the world would be a pretty boring place.
• Find something you are good at and focus on doing it. An identifiable strength will boost your natural self esteem and your ego, helping you better identify with yourself. It is a short term fix, but will give you the confidence you need to break your self-imposed barrier of fear.
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See how your unique strength gives you an advantage. For example, I Daniel Ader (Danader Nisral) I’m a naturally quiet person who prefers to spend time alone. I learnt that I listen better than others and notices things that others miss in conversations. I also discovered that I alone time has given me a better understanding of herself.
61558; Learn to Like Yourself
Practice appreciating yourself and liking the unique expression that is you. Write a love letter to yourself, do things you enjoy, give gratitude for your body and its effortless functions, spend quality time getting to know yourself.
Try to go on self date.
61558; Focus on Other People
Rather than focusing on your awkwardness in social situations, focus on other people about what they have to say. Become interested in learning about others, and probe them to talk about themselves. You can try pondering the question while interacting: What is it about this person that I like?
61558; accept rejection
Accept the possibility that we can be rejected and learn to not take it personally .Remember you are not alone and we all experience rejections. it is part of life and part of the learning process . The key lies in how you handle rejections when they come. It helps to be mentally prepared before they happen.
• Never take it personally. It was not your fault. It just wasn’t meant to be. The scenario was not the best fit for you.
• Find the lesson what did you learn? There is a lesson ingrained in every situation. And through these life lessons lies the potential for you to become a better person, a stronger person. Nothing is lost if you can find the lesson. See these as the blessings in disguise.
Move on. Recognize that when you fall into self-pity, you are not moving forward. Nothing will be changed from your self-pity. When you start to recognize this, it becomes clear that only energy is wasted while we feed to our problem-seeking ego. Pick yourself.
61558; Focus on the Moment
Becoming mindful of what you’re doing, regardless of what you’re doing, will take focus away from the self. When you are having a conversation, forget about how you look, focus on the
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words, fall into the words, become absorbed in the words. The tones. The expression. Appreciate it and give gratitude for it, don’t eat words, speak louder, look at the audience when you are talking .
61558; Seek and Record Your Successes
As you overcome this condition we’ve been labeling as shyness, you will have many wins and realizations about yourself. You will gain insights into the truth behind social scenarios. You will start to view yourself differently and come to recognize that you can become comfortable and confident. When these wins and realizations happen, make sure to keep a notebook and write them down. Keeping a journal of your successes will not only boost self confidence, but also shift your focus towards something that can benefit you.


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